We’re All “Perfection Pending”

By October 28, 2019NESCA Notes 2019

By: Ann Helmus, Ph.D.
NESCA Founder/Director

I recently came across a raw and powerful blog post on Perfection Pending by Meredith Ethington. It’s a worry-filled, heartfelt and all-too-familiar account of a mother dropping her child off at school in tears, questioning her parenting skills after a tough, embattled morning with her struggling child. We can all relate to her fears, questioning and self-doubt.

At NESCA, I often meet with parents, just like the mom in the blog post, who question the decisions they’ve made as well as the indecision they’ve allowed on behalf of their children. They blame themselves for the challenges their child has at home and/or in school and frequently ask themselves and me what they could have done better. Many times, the answer is nothing. These are normal emotions for any parent, but when there are special needs present, these emotions are intensified.

Recently, our staff across NESCA’s three offices met as a team to get to know new staff  better, discuss what’s going on in the field of pediatric neuropsychology and hone in on what makes NESCA different. After lots of insightful discussions throughout the day, we were struck by the consistent theme that emerged—when families come to NESCA, they don’t just get a cookie cutter neuropsychological report about their child’s learning style, diagnosis and rote recommendations. At NESCA, not only do families get a thorough, individualized report with an accurate diagnosis and highly customized, realistic recommendations, but they get—sometimes even more importantly—an entire team of experts in their field all contributing ideas and resources to support families in the quest help their child.

Our expert neuropsychologists and providers don’t arrive at the label of “expert” solely by their degrees, years of experience and broad networks of resources who may help the children and young adults we see. Many of our clinicians and providers also have children or relatives they care for—a large number with their own identified challenges and special needs. We see things from both sides, can relate to the ongoing struggles and are there alongside the parents and caregivers during the testing process and over the long haul. We work side by side with parents, families, schools and children throughout a person’s development, not just the hours or days of testing and observation. Our jobs are not done when we deliver that final report to families. We serve as teammates throughout your journeys.

So, to the parents and caregivers crying tears of worry, doubt and blame, we hear you and we support you.

Additional reading:

Perfection Pending by Meredith Ethington

Mom Life: Perfection Pending

 

About the Author: 

NESCA Founder/Director Ann Helmus, Ph.D. is a licensed clinical neuropsychologist who has been practicing for almost 20 years. In 1996, she jointly founded the  Children’s Evaluation Center (CEC) in Newton, Massachusetts, serving as co-director there for almost ten years. During that time, CEC emerged as a leading regional center for the diagnosis and remediation of both learning disabilities and Autism Spectrum Disorders.

In September of 2007, Dr. Helmus established NESCA (Neuropsychology & Education Services for Children & Adolescents), a client and family-centered group of seasoned neuropsychologists and allied staff, many of whom she trained, striving to create and refine innovative clinical protocols and dedicated to setting new standards of care in the field.

Dr. Helmus specializes in the evaluation of children with learning disabilities, attention and executive function deficits and primary neurological disorders. In addition to assessing children, she also provides consultation and training to both public and private school systems. She frequently makes presentations to groups of parents, particularly on the topics of non-verbal learning disability and executive functioning.

 

To book an evaluation with Dr. Helmus, NESCA Founder and Director, or one of our many other expert neuropsychologists, complete NESCA’s online intake form

 

Neuropsychology & Education Services for Children & Adolescents (NESCA) is a pediatric neuropsychology practice and integrative treatment center with offices in Newton and Plainville, Massachusetts, as well as Londonderry, New Hampshire. NESCA serves clients from preschool through young adulthood and their families. For more information, please email info@nesca-newton.com or call 617-658-9800.